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We don't have to make someone feel worse to make them do better!

Where did we ever get the crazy idea that to make children do better, first we have to make them feel worse? Think of the last time you felt humiliated. Did you feel like cooperating or doing better? ― Jane Nelsen
Something deep for us to think about as a society! Isn't it?

The world-famous author and Poet Maya Angelou said people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

When I look back from the time I was a little girl to date, the majority of my memories are linked to how I felt at that particular moment.

Feelings are most powerful 💪. But sometimes we hear things like being emotional is a bad thing. Strong words like “ he/she is an emotional fool” and other ridicules make us feel bad for expressing emotions.

As children, if we are not taught healthy ways of expressing and dealing with our difficult emotions. We learn to hold back our emotions. And what we hold back doesn’t disappear. It makes us feel heavy and pushes us towards becoming emotional pressure cookers. When the pressure builds up, the cooker whistle blows and we lose control. Later we feel guilty for expressing it that way!!!! The cycle begins all over again. Making us feel a little worse than before.😢

I have come across many people who have mastered their difficult emotions. Here are my observations on how they achieved it.
  • Their environment while growing up was a nurturing one. 
  • They had one or more role models to follow.
  • They found a mentor who guided them.
  • Inner Spiritual journey – Yoga, Praying, Meditation, a strong belief that God/universe is there for me
Or the best combination of all the above 🙏

Make it a day of "Accepting your Feelings" and "Learning to Express them Right" Day
Also, make it a day of creating "Happy Memories" with your loved ones 😍

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